I just completed the busiest summer counseling season
ever. Lead Them Home offers in-person counseling at church partner sites around Metro-West Boston. Others across America and around the world seek help
by telephone or email. The
issues range from families desiring to love without conveying approval,
to individuals struggling with isolation, fear of family rejection, and
DONORS: Lead Them Home assists dozens and dozens of college students every year at no cost. Many of these young people lack family support, some are suicidal and most have no financial means. Your support of Lead Them Home opens the door for us to care for these young people. We are increasingly being contacted by teens as young as 14 seeking some kind of help in the absence of their parents’ knowledge about their sexuality or gender identity struggle. Our first priority, when possible, is to make sure they share their inner struggle with their parents. We help them do that.
Noah (17) wrote to me from a southern state: “I am desperate for my father to love me,
but I cannot ever tell him about my SSA.” Helping isolated teens
like Noah assess the safety of telling their parents – and then
supporting the entire family – is a serious endeavor
and deep privilege. I cannot just casually recommend
that teens tell their parents. It is ideal and possible in
many cases, but in some situations it is not possible.
When teens and young adults cross the line of disclosure with their parents, I often receive an email or telephone call from the parents. They are so thankful that Lead Them Home was here for their child. One parent told me: “I cannot imagine not knowing all the pain my son has gone through alone. I cannot ever thank God enough for placing you in our lives to help point my son back toward home.”
I routinely encounter
young adults from nations where homosexually oriented persons are
heavily persecuted. Many of them have an orthodox belief and do not plan
to ever act upon SSA, yet they are still persecuted. In some nations, to even experience SSA is to be a homosexual offender (in such countries). Jacob
(28) was granted asylum in America due to the risks of physical threat or even death. His home church here in the United States flew Jacob to Boston for
a few days of counseling and encouragement.
Aaron (35) is a great husband, father and follower of Christ. He is your child’s teacher; or basketball coach. He is a comedian and can laugh with great joy in his heart. Few people know, however, that deep inside his soul lies a life-long struggle over gender identity. Even fewer people know that he has been suicidal as his inner turmoil has come to the surface. Thankfully, now, Aaron and his wife are getting help from a few select people who deeply care for them. I am privileged to care for them both.
Michael (24) was legally married to a man at a very young age. Unexpectedly, he had a powerful encounter with God. Without any outside pressures forcing him, he encountered Christ and received the Holy Spirit. Immediately, he felt conviction to exit the marriage. He did so, and is now wholly surrendered to the will of God in his life. He contacted me after his divorce to ask how he could help other people discover God’s love. Michael has a deep passion for others knowing Jesus.
I just received an update from a young man in his early 20s that I have counseled by phone for almost 3 years. When Todd (21) first contacted me, it was a cold call. He found Lead Them Home on the internet. He had just been released from a hospital after attempting suicide. His family was highly rejecting. He was experiencing some insensitive counsel from his church leaders that left him feeling misunderstood and judged. Today, there is peace, stability and a tone of hope in his voice. He is not so comfortable with Christianity at this point, but I know this: Jesus loves Todd!
Jeremy (28) is Asian. He is quite fearful about his family and community knowing about his SSA. The greatest difficulty he faces is not the temptations, but the loneliness of others not understanding his experience. When he is given suggestions, they are often filled with biases that reveal how much people do not understand his struggle. Nothing is more lonely than to be around people who do not understand. It is a privilege to be a spiritual brother to Asian young adults across the country struggling to find acceptance.
Kendall (22) is aspiring to be in full-time ministry. He needs his church leaders to know about his SSA, but he fears that the biases people carry will preclude him from being deemed worthy to serve. He lives in a rural area where homosexuality is thought of as the greatest curse on our nation. Will they trust that he is a believer? Or will the mere existence of SSA disqualify him for service in full-time ministry.
My family often becomes like a second family to teens and young adults who lack family support. When their parents become involved, they too become like family. It is a great joy to see teens fearing rejection experience acceptance from their parents. When I named our ministry Lead Them Home, I had in mind that young people should never have to worry about whether they are accepted by their parents. Every young person should hear what one father said to his son: “I am proud of you. You are mine. No matter what.”
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