A young man sits across the table. Vibrant in his faith only weeks ago, he now sits in a pile of spiritual rubble. “I cannot believe it. I am utterly confused and unsure about everything. I need a break from the church. I cannot imagine them knowing about my real life. I’m out of gas.”
Matt, 23, has struggled with exclusive SSA his entire life. He has always held a deep belief that same-gender relationships are sinful. Our meetings have focused not on theology but on helping him deepen connectedness to his parents. He tends to withdraw, but right now he really wants to hide.
Matt recently fell in love with another man. He has fallen in love with other men before, but this time he finds himself in the arms of someone who loves him too. It began as an emotional and spiritual closeness, but slowly progressed to a falling in love. They are in the deep end of love now.
I refuse to moralize young people like Matt. Instead, I see them through the eyes of God. I see hope, because my confidence is in Christ – not in our humanity. In our mere humanity, any of us could fall in love with someone or take a U-turn in our faith for one reason or another. Yet Christ still reigns…
There is strong evidence of real faith any time we lose faith at the very point where we violate our own conscience. Our Heavenly Father made it this way to guide us toward what works – and confirm what does not work – for our lives. Hence, a fading faith can be the grace of God’s guiding hand.
While rediscovering faith may seem far off, it often is one step away from self-determination and one step toward whole-life surrender. The door to this rediscovery is a simple acceptance of Jesus’ invitation: “Come to me all who are weary and burdened.” God promises, “I will be found by you.”
Matt, I will never judge you. I will walk with you no matter what. You are my brother in Christ not because of what you achieve, but because of what Jesus has already achieved for all of us. When you run out of gas, God still has plenty of grace for you. I am here for you.
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