Achieving sexual wholeness is impossible by human effort, but with God all things are possible. How, though, can we turn possibility into a promise? Below are seven paths to wholeness.
(1) We must first take an initial step away from sin, turn toward God and receive His provision of an initial period of sobriety. Many ideas posted in 17 Tips for Eliminating Porn apply well beyond sex addiction. Everyone – no matter what you struggle with or how long you have struggled – can find “something” on this list to help you turn toward God.
(2) The fruit of sober living is wise thinking. Think about this: we are (sinful) human beings before we ever experience sexual desire. We do not need sexual wholeness as much as we need soul wholeness. Sexuality is just one shard of broken humanity among our vast frailties. The Great Physician aims to heal our whole soul.
(3) The fruit of wise thinking is clear vision. Via intimate connection with God, Adam and Eve once experienced perfect wholeness. We can experience greater wholeness only when we look beyond our brokenness. Focusing on personal failures cripples our hope, so God invites us to look to Him. As we fix our eyes upon Jesus, we will experience increasing freedom.
(4) The fruit of clear vision is accurate hearing. We begin to distinguish between the four voices that speak to us: God’s voice; Satan’s voice; others’ voices; and our own voice. Sadly, three of the four routinely tear us down. Satan aims to destroy us; other people can see the worst in us; and we often condemn ourselves. Satan colludes with these other voices to drown out God’s voice. To hear God, we must dive deep into scripture. Try this: read God’s 136 promises of “mercy and loving-kindness.“
(5) Better thinking, seeing and hearing produce secure rest. We are not to fight our flesh: the battle is not ours; fighting the flesh has only led to a lifetime of failure. God wants us to rest! He promises: “The LORD will fight for you as you hold your peace and remain at rest” (Exodus 14:14). “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High will rest in the shadow of the Almighty” (Psalm 91).
(6) Resting in Christ shifts our confidence from our strength to God’s strength. What He promises to do, He will accomplish. God says: “In returning to and resting in Me you shall be saved (rescued); a quiet and trusting confidence shall be your strength” (Isaiah 30:15). Jesus told Paul: “My strength is perfected in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:8-10). Paul embraced weakness to gain God’s strength.
(7) God’s protection empowers us to call out to Him in a courageous voice. Even secular science suggests that we limit our lives by our words, so why do we minimize the value of proclaiming the (Living!) Word of God? Isaiah wrote: “God will surely be gracious to you at the sound of your cry; when He hears it, He will answer you” (Isaiah 30:19). Whatever you need, let Jesus hear your voice.
These seven paths will transform all things are possible into a realized promise. Join me for more insights on the importance of our voice next time. God bless you.
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